6 Ways to Raise Your Emotional Intelligence – Master Your Emotions

What would you and I be if we did not have emotions? Almost nowhere. It is through emotions that we understand ourselves and others.

And there is no doubt that the individual world revolves around me & you.

Emotional intelligence helps us to understand what is going on inside and what actions one should take.

It is through our emotions that we feel for others. So, it is impossible to live without emotions.

But, when you do not understand and manage your emotions, you tend to tangle with your and other’s lives. The problem is, we have never been told how to manage our emotions. And, as a result, we don’t think it matters.

 One who can master emotions can master actions. And the one who masters their actions is the master of all future realities. Thank you to Daniel Goleman for his efforts, who wrote a book called Emotional Intelligence. The emotional quotient (EQ) is another term for emotional intelligence.

When it comes to personal and professional success, emotional intelligence is the key. It allows us to recognize and manage all of our emotions and the people around us.

Understanding the crucial aspects of emotional intelligence will help you to see the bigger picture. In addition, it will allow you to identify opportunities.

First, we’ll look at Daniel Goleman’s five components of emotional intelligence, and then we’ll look at how to improve your emotional intelligence.

5 Components of Emotional Intelligence.

1. Self-awareness

The fundamental skill of emotional intelligence is self-awareness. This helps to develop other emotional intelligence skills. Self-awareness is the ability to know what you think and what you feel.

It’s an awareness of your personality and individuality. It is a method of separating yourself from your thoughts by engaging in daily self-reflection. It’s a way to know your emotions and identify your feelings.

The moment you identify and name the emotion you are feeling and experiencing, without being reactive and judgemental towards it. That’s when you have self-awareness.

It assists you to become more aware of your internal state of being. To observe and take control of your patterns, beliefs, and thoughts.

And to become mindful of what activates your emotions as they rise and fall.

2. Self-Regulation

Just as important as being emotionally aware is. It is also critical to be able to manage and regulate your emotions. This component is deep-rooted in understanding how to manage and being able to express emotions accordingly.

You become highly adaptable to the changes around you, with good self-regulation skills. And become more flexible when the time comes to think and behave.

As a result, you can excel at all conflict resolution and dealing with difficult situations.  You start taking responsibility for your behavior as you get highly aware of your influence on the people around you.

Self-regulation gives you the ability to re-think before taking any action instead of responding reactively. 

3. Motivation

In the language of emotional intelligence, motivation is the ability to keep going, regardless of challenges, failures, or disappointment.

Self-motivation is described as an inner drive to remain committed to your goal and ready to act as needed.

Because of your high emotional intelligence, you always push forward. Regardless of the setbacks you face along the way, you never allow frustration to slow down your progress.

You remain committed and take continuous action to move you closer to your goals.

4. Empathy 

Empathy is based on your understanding of the human capacity to feel the emotions of others. Whereas sympathy focuses on understanding the specific emotions of others.

Empathy has less to do with experience and more to do with comprehension of others. When you place yourself in someone else’s shoes and care about others.

Empathy includes the ability to communicate effectively. And it is led by treating others as unique individuals with distinct needs and experiences.

5. Social skill and inter-personal awareness

Interpersonal awareness is having the potential to understand and manage the emotions of other people. It’s through your high interpersonal awareness that you form a good relationship with people, whether romantic, platonic, or professional.

Those with a high level of emotional intelligence have good communication skills. They are also skilled at teamwork, active listening, and uniting others.

Here are six strategies for increasing your emotional intelligence.

1. Curve your self-talk more beautifully. 

Your confidence, emotions, and self-perspective are not only influenced by external factors. What you feel and think about yourself may come from your self-talk.

Because of the abundance of competition around us, humans have begun to criticize themselves. And sometimes your inner critics cross all the limits, and you turn out too nasty.

Due to that, you make your self-image blurry.

You start seeing yourself negatively because those critics affect your emotions. It is time to change your inner dialogue and give yourself more credit.

And not to be too hard on yourself. No more passing judgment on yourself and placing yourself in a guilty verdict all the time; it will not help you.

Understanding and managing all of your emotions is a prime part of a successful and happy life.

2. Make a list of your positive experiences.

If you want to master your emotions positively, you need to maintain positivity. You assume this world is a cruel place.

Because when you check your social media feeds every day, you see that they are mainly filled with political, never-ending debates, or negative, judgmental comments, and more.

And also, you experience your whole day with lots of good and bad experiences.

Maybe someone may have made you feel bad, blamed you for something, or encouraged you to do something. As you can see, a lot of different things happen to you throughout your day.

And if you only remember the negative events of the day, your emotions will be affected negatively.

To avoid this, make a list of positive experiences you had that day before going to bed, and write down at least five meaningful moments.

Soon, you will realize that the world has not lost its humanity, and you will experience positive emotions.

3. There are no right or wrong emotions.

Mastering emotions does not mean shutting down negative emotions. Always remember that there are no right or wrong emotions as long as you gain a benefit or give them a positive chance to develop.

There is nothing wrong with being sad or disappointed as long as your sadness becomes your milestone to gain experience. We usually try to shut down negative emotions because we think they are bad ones.

And such decisions may affect our emotional health.

So, to master your emotions, you should appreciate all of your emotions as a part of yourself. Accept whatever emotions you have and figure out how to use them to your advantage.

4. The choice is all yours.

You are aware that you have no control over events that occur in the outside world. You do not have the power to control traffic jams caused by accidents.

You have no control over what people say in your social media comment section.

But you always have a choice to pause for a moment. Think and decide how to react in a better way to that particular situation.

That will help you to become better at emotional intelligence. And it will keep your emotions safe and positive.

Now you can control yourself; you are the master of your own emotions. You have complete control over what you do with any input.

5. Give new feeds to your mind every day.

Humans are designed to explore the world, and our ancestors have hunted for food, cultivated plants, and made so many new explorations.

So, we cannot live in one place because of the impact of our late grandfather’s exploration in the past. The problem is that our modern society makes us stay in the same place for a long time.

Like going to the same office, meeting the same people, and repeating the same thing every day. There is no doubt you have to do that, as you cannot avoid it.

But in between your day or at least in a week try and explore something new.

Maybe just simply reading about something you have never read about. Try cooking or doing something that interests you.

Because you can get bored of doing repetitive things every day, it can affect your emotions, so try and do something new every day.

6. Practice silence.

Doesn’t a cup of tea or a walk in nature alone sound appealing? Being in silence is when you get the chance to spend time with yourself. To know what is going on within without any distraction from the external world.

Paying attention to your feelings is the best way to know yourself.

Quoted by Eckhart Tolle, “Awareness is the greatest agent for change.”

When you are silent, this is the time when you will reflect on your day. You can talk to yourself and get to know what your emotions feel like right now.

Why is this emotion the way it is right now? Then check if that particular emotion which you are experiencing right now is worth it for you or not.

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